26% of women say they wished their wedding proposal
Men want to know what women want and I am here to tell you. Recently TheKnot and Men's Health issued a survery on wedding proposals. They specifically asked how the bride-to-be responded after the proposal. Their reactions were mixed.
Below are some of their reactions. Check out what went over well and what didn't go so well.
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"I always imagined something very romantic with a lot of thought and set up going into it. It was very simple-he just got down on one knee and asked. No special occasion, just did it after dinner one night. I feel a little disappointed. And when people ask me "How did he do it", I feel like I have to start the story with a waiver saying "it wasn't a big deal or anything...", but I wanted it to be a big deal! Anonymous
"I knew my boyfriend (now fiance) had my engagement ring and it was just a matter of time of waiting for the right time. Well, he popped the question but at the wrong time. We were having a nice enough weeekend together, spending Sunday afternoon touring a historic site. I had a feeling he might ask that day but really didn't want him to because the place we were at just wasn't very pretty. Well after we ate our peanut butter and jelly sandwiches at some run down picnic table he got up and knelt down and asked me to marry him. As soon as I realized what he was doing I thought not now! But held my tongue and just went with it. The rest of the day we were very lovey dovey and I tried to forget the fact it wasn't what I was hoping for but I kept thinking about it. I was really wishing it would be a beautiful place when were were feeling romantic."
"So I'm engaged but my proposal sucked!!! He didn't even decorate, there was no romantic music and he knows that I love flowers and he didn't even give me one!!! He used a beat up candle that was already used and I didn't even get to dresss up nor did he ask my parents before he asked the question!!! I'm so mad because I gave him an idea of how I would like to be proposed and he didn't do it."
In Their Own Words
1) You've Got it Goin' On
It takes two whole people to make a whole relationship. This means you enjoy a full life with friends, family, a career and social life that fulfill you. You're confident, and you don't expect marriage to instantly fix your problems.
2) You Enjoy the Mundane Moments
Marriage is not one long date. Being ready to get engaged menas that you truly enjoy each other's company. You're okay with just being together sometimes, even while running errands or doing chores.
3) Your're Ready to Burn your Little Black Book
Marriage means being exclusive with one person for the rest of your life. In many cases, it also means forsaking contact with exes and anyone else who may threaten your union. If the idea of monogamy makes you feel secure and confident in your relationship, then engagement will be a comfortable next step for you.
4) You Bring out the Best in Each Other
Cheesy, we know. But ask yourself if this person makes you a beter person. Are you kinder, more patient and more pleasant to be around when your snookums is near?
5) You're a Team Player
Compromise isn't always 50/50. Sometimes it's 100/0. If you want to vacation at Disney World but your mate would rather go to the Bahamas, then a 50/50 compromise leaves you both adrift in the Atlantic Ocean. Your're ready to get engaged if you can handle not getting your way sometimes. It's not about winners and losers. It's not about being a doormat. It's about using "we" statements and serving someone besides yourself.
6) You Cheerlead for Each Other
Before you swap rings you should already be each other's biggest fan. When your sweetie masters a level of Guitar Hero, you're there with a high five. When you complete a 5K run for charity, your honey surprises you at the finish line with a gift certificate for a massage.
7) You're an Open Book
There are no off-lmits topics with your main squeeze. You can get real about your worries, dreams, frustrations and mess-ups without fear of being judged. You can cry when you feel like crying. In marriage, living as a 24/7 partnership, there's no way you can keep your guard up all the time. If you and your significant other enjoy a "you can tell me anything" realstionship, then that's a great start.
8) You Figth Fair
Every couple has conflicts. It's how you handle them that makes the difference. If you can disagree respectfully, then your relationship is headed in the right direction.
9)You have Similar Values
You both want kids. Or you both don't want kids. You're both savers. Or you're both spenders. You two don't have to share a brain- after all, part of the beauty of marriage is that you'll compliment each other's strengths and weaknesses-but it helps to be headed in the same direction. If you already agree on the big, stuff then smaller issues, like who does the laundry, will be easier to tackle.
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1 out of every 4 women hated the way they were proposed to90% of women do not want to be proposed to at a sports gameA third of women agree that proposing without a ring is the worst thing you could doLess than 50% of women felt as though going down on one knee was essential3/4 of men don't ask for assistance on planning the proposal or advice from the jeweler on the ring
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